Feb. 1, 2020

The Secret to Spending More Time In Your Zone of Genius

The Secret to Spending More Time In Your Zone of Genius

Does managing stress in your business feel virtually impossible?

Have you ever wondered why most ways to relieve stress are so ineffective?

Inside this episode of The Systems Made Simple™ Podcast, I’ll show you the counter-intuitive approach to managing stress in your life and discover a new approach for stress management in your business.

That’s why our company, The EffortLESS Life® exists: to challenge the status quo and give you the perfect combination of mindset and strategy when it comes to stress management, so that managing stress in your business feels easy and -- well, effortless.

When we say effortless, we literally mean creating a life that doesn’t depend on your hard work or effort! Building a business can feel overwhelming, but effective stress management isn't as difficult as you might think.

You shouldn't have to choose between success or family, work or relationships, or having a successful business vs. having a life you love. I’m here to show you how you can have it all, without having to do it all.


  • Where overwhelm really comes from (not what you think!)

  • What the relentless pursuit of success actually costs you

  • The‌ ‌counter-intuitive approach to managing stress in your business so you can reach the next level without burning out

Sounds good? Then pop in those earbuds right now and tune in, because when you finish this episode, you’ll discover how to feel clear, focused, and in control of your life and business -- for good.

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You’re Listening to the Systems Made Simple™ Podcast, Episode #1! 

Inside this episode, I’ll show you the counter-intuitive approach to better managing stress in your life and business. 

Because today, we’re talking about stress management: ways to relieve stress, ways to reduce stress, and the insider secrets for better managing stress so you can break up with “busy” and find true success in every area of your life (no hustle or hard work required.)

Because when I say effortless -- not only do I mean easy and effortlessly, I literally mean creating a life that doesn’t depend on your hard work or EFFORT! 

I’m so excited to be here talking with you today, because I’ll be totally honest: this podcast has been a long time coming! I’ve gotten countless requests to start hosting this because so many entrepreneurs are looking for ways to reduce stress when it comes to growing their business. It’s been tugging at my heart for a while now. There’s a bunch of reasons why I decided to launch it, but the main one is because I wanted to help you understand why managing stress isn’t the best way to reduce stress, and what to focus on instead when it comes to true stress management. Plus, I wanted a way to deliver tons of value to you and show you how to go from stuck, stressed, and spinning your wheels and give you the tools and strategies you need for managing stress effectively so you can feel clear, focused, and in control of your life and your work. Ultimately, so you can live your purpose, know the most effective ways to relieve stress in your business, find more freedom, and feel more fulfilled.

Why? Because you deserve to know the best ways to reduce stress and expand your income and impact, my friend! 

Maybe this sounds harsh right out the gate but look, I’m not here to sugar coat it: if you're having trouble managing stress and feel stuck and like you’re spinning your wheels, you’re doing it wrong! And lucky for you you're in the right place. Here on the show you’ll learn ways to relieve stress that are actually effective, because despite what you might’ve heard, stress and overwhelm do NOT have to be a normal part of your life and business. Nor should they be!

And that’s why I’m here: to challenge the status quo and give you the perfect combination of mindset and strategy when it comes to managing stress to help you carve out your own clear path to wild success and understand what stress management really is all about. 

And maybe you’re like ok well that sounds good, but who the heck are you and why are you qualified to teach me all this? 

So if it’s cool with you, I thought it’d be helpful if I share a little bit about who I am and why I do what I do to help entrepreneurs like you with managing stress in their business, and then we’ll dive into what you can expect to learn by listening to this podcast and what valuable strategies and ways to reduce stress you’ll walk away with to help you grow personally, professionally, and fall in love with your life and business again.

That’s because I used to be a workaholic. Managing stress felt impossible. I started my career in the corporate world of 9 to 5 and moved up the ladder quickly and had a ton of success. But it never felt like enough, I always wanted more. And slowly, without realizing it, I was so focused on being more successful faster that I became a slave to my work. Finding ways to relieve stress was nowhere on my radar, because I thought hard work was the only way to true success. Stress, anxiety, and overwhelm were my best friends. I thought it was just normal to feel that way, after all, what I was led to believe was that if I was willing to sacrifice now, I’d be able to enjoy my life later one day. 

I lived, worked, and breathed for that one day. My life soon became all about work. Until one day, when a cancer diagnosis stopped me in my tracks. Suddenly, I wish I’d learned more about stress management and finding ways to reduce stress all those years.

Overcoming cancer at 25 was not how I expected to start my journey as an entrepreneur.

But that’s exactly where my story starts, because as I sat there in that cold, sterile exam room, that was the moment I realized that life is too short. That’s when I decided to quit burning myself out, feeling like I had to choose between having success or having a life I truly loved, and figure out how to have both. 

I learned first-hand that my endless pursuit of success and lack of good strategies for stress management had come at a cost. Not the cost of late nights at my desk or the discipline it took to stay focused and get “just one more thing” scratched off my to-do list, nope. The price I paid for my success was my health, my friendships, my relationships, and all of the other things that truly mattered to me. 

I’m forever grateful for that diagnosis, because facing this unimaginable challenge was not the end. It was my beginning.  

My test literally became my testimony, and I walked away from my fast-paced career and became obsessed with figuring out how to work less, stress less, and enjoy my life in the here and now -- not wishing and working it away. But on my journey of healing, I wasn’t looking for better self care practices or typical stress management practices or more me-time. As ways to relieve stress. 

I was searching for answers to a deeper question: I wanted to know WHY stress management and finding effective ways to relieve stress was so difficult for entrepreneurs. I wanted to know why overwhelm, and burnout happen in the first place, especially to people who are pursuing their passion and working toward their dreams. 

At first the question really baffled me, because it’s common to think that the opposite is true: you’d think that pursuing our dreams would motivate us, inspire us, and energize us and needing ways to reduce stress would become irrelevant. But as I observed so many of my friends and colleagues fail at managing stress and break under the relentless pressure of their to-do list, it was clear that stress and overwhelm were merely symptoms of a much deeper root cause.  

That root cause is what I’ve spent the past 6+ years exploring, researching, and discovering. The answer might come as a surprise, because despite what many people think and what our Western culture would have us believe, typical stress management strategies are not the most effective approach to managing stress. Even more importantly, feeling the constant pressure of stress and overwhelm should not be a normal part of everyday life. Stress and overwhelm do not come from having too much on our plates or too long of a to-do list. And most importantly, stress can not be “managed.” 

The results of these discoveries is what led me to the work I do in the world today, teaching high-achieving entrepreneurs like you how to create a clear path to wild success without the stress, hustle, and hard work, where managing stress truly does become irrelevant. Where there’s no need for ways to reduce stress and stress management practices aren’t required, because the stress that was once there, is gone.

Life’s too short to waste any time feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and burnt out. Much less waste more time figuring out the best approach for managing stress that shouldn’t be there in the first place. 

That’s exactly why I created this podcast, to teach you the mind-blowingly simple steps you can take right now to:

  • Learn why despite what our culture would have you believe, “working harder” is NOT the quickest way to success and why typical stress management practices are ineffective

  • Identify new ways to relieve stress by eliminating the underlying causes of stress and overwhelm in your life and work 

  • Discover additional ways to reduce stress by reframing your relationships with time, productivity, money, and success 

  • Learn the surprisingly simple strategies for better managing stress that’ll save you tons of wasted time and help you feel clear, confident, and in control 

  • Experience true happiness, discover your inner peace and feel confident that you’re on the right track to fulfill your mission in life

Up until now, you probably have no idea that someone like me even exists -- someone who specializes in helping people understand what managing stress truly means so they can find true, sustainable success in ALL areas of their life. So they can live a life of significance and expand their income and impact without working so hard, and have effective ways to relieve stress and overwhelm, and without sacrificing their life along the way. 

We’re so conditioned to believe that “hard work and hustle” is just what it takes if you want to be successful. I’m here to tell you that’s not true. There IS a different way. This is exactly where the effective strategies for managing stress that I’ve discovered and researched come in. I’ve taken out the guess-work and designed the step-by-step system you need to replace the old stress management strategies you’ve tried, and find new, better ways to relieve stress and free up your time to focus on what matters  -- so you can make more money, and have more impact, and have more freedom. 


I just need one thing from you. I need your commitment to listen with an open mind and be willing to try something new when it comes to managing stress.

The way you’re doing things right now isn’t working. You know it, I know it, and let’s be honest: there’s something inside you that prompted you to pick up this podcast and start listening.

There’s no question that our culture is busier than ever as we chase after success at the expense of our sanity. Unfortunately, this does nothing but leave us feeling unsettled, unsatisfied, and unsuccessful -- the exact opposite of what we’re working so hard to achieve. Because we haven’t achieved the results we want “yet,” we mistakenly believe that working harder is the answer. That is a recipe for disaster and a poor approach to managing stress.

Buying into the belief that hard work and effort are required for true success keeps you  stuck, makes you feel like you’re spinning our wheels, makes managing stress virtually impossible, and is a total waste of your precious time and energy.

How many times have you heard that hustling harder is just what it takes to be successful?

Maybe you’ve felt like this:

  • You’ll never be successful unless you’re working 16-hour days, 7 days a week

  • The only way to earn more, is to do more (which only increases your stress levels and makes managing stress difficult) 

  • You don’t have a plan to achieve your goals, but you know it involves more hours at work 

  • No matter what you do, you can’t ever seem to find time for YOURSELF

  • You’re on the go all the time, you never stop, but you still don’t have the results you want yet despite all the hard work and effort you’ve been putting in

If you’re running your business at a breakneck pace, it’s easy to conclude that you need to get better at finding ways to relieve stress and that stress management is a skill you’ll have to spend time figuring out how to get better at. In fact, it’s probably something that gets pushed to the back burner, because you have no time to figure it out. You’re too busy running a business to find new ways to reduce stress.

Have you ever wished that you were further along than where you are? 

Feel like you should “be there” by now and wonder why you aren’t? 

Wondering what you’re missing: you’re doing all the “right” things! 

Maybe you chalk it up to the way the world works and try to keep moving forward. But really, it feels like for every step you take forward, you take two back. 

It doesn’t make sense! You put in the hours. You work hard. You know your stuff. 

Yet you haven’t achieved your dream lifestyle yet. You don’t have the time freedom, or the financial freedom, or just the freedom to do what you want whenever you want, YET. You just aren’t where you want to be, yet. And you’re definitely falling short when it comes to managing stress and getting a grip.

You wonder “What am I doing wrong!” You justify your hard work and hustle by saying, “this is just what it takes to be successful.” Think about this for a second: if your competitive edge is the amount of hard work you put in, what if someone else puts in just a little bit more than you? Works just a little bit harder than you? Has more effective stress management strategies in place than you, so they can squeeze out just a little more energy than you? 

You’re competing in a losing game. 

Imagine for a second what it’ll be like 5 years from now if you keep doing the same old thing, hoping for a different result. (or heck, 1 year from now)

  • Think of how much more time you’ll waste… 
  • How much more frustrated you’ll feel... 
  • How much more money you’ll leave on the table…
  • How much more your marriage, your relationships, and your kids will suffer as a result of you not managing stress and overwhelm... 
  • How much more stressed and overwhelmed you’ll feel…! 

I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way. The fix is SO EASY. The ways to relieve stress and stress management strategies you’ve tried aren’t working, because they’re not the right approach. 

You need to learn the secret behind what is actually keeping you from reaching your goals. Don’t you think it’s about time you started living your life from a place that’s clear, focused, and in control instead of stressed out, burnt out, and overwhelmed? 

Well I have good news: I’m here to tell you that it’s possible to identify effective strategies for managing stress. It’s time to learn how to go from chaos to clarity and find new ways to relieve stress so you can have the income and impact you deserve.

Throughout these episodes, that’s what I’m here to teach you how to do so that you can experience the incredible freedom that comes with stepping into your power as the amazing person you already are. As a bonus, you’ll discover a revolutionary new approach for managing stress which will help free up your time and energy to make more money and help more people. 

Don’t just take it from me, There are people from all walks of life who have these strategies for managing stress in place and can’t believe what their life and business looks like now. 


Close your eyes and imagine if:

  • You knew exactly what you wanted 
  • You knew the right things to focus on and stress didn’t affect you because you had effective stress management strategies in place
  • You had a clear plan on how to reach your goals
  • You took bold, confident action every single day and actually saw forward progress because you knew the exact ways to relieve stress so it doesn’t derail you 


Even better: 

  • If you run a company, what if you had to hire more people to keep up with the growth 
  • If you work in corporate, what if you got promoted to C-Suite level in your company?
  • If you’re in sales, what if your gross increased to $3 million this year?

Wouldn’t that be awesome! That’s what happened to Christina. Once she learned this new proven approach for managing stress in her business, she went from making virtually zero to grossing over $3 MILLION in sales in a single month. Why? Because she had effective ways to relieve stress in place. Not just any system. The system I taught her how to use that allowed her to experience this kind of success, without a ton of effort and hard work. 

I love Christina’s story. She’s a wife, a mom, and a mortgage lender who went from having a hard time managing stress in her business and struggling to make money, to grossing $3 million in a single month and was later recognized as the top two salesperson in her region! Her story doesn’t end there. After that, she became sales manager of a new office. 

Look, regardless of whether you work for yourself or for someone else, juggling the demands of work, family, and everything else you’ve got on your plate can feel stressful. There’s no denying that. But effective stress management isn’t as hard as you think. It’s simply felt difficult because you’ve been using the wrong approach for managing stress, and ineffective, outdated ways to relieve stress that don’t actually work.

Imagine if someone could show you this revolutionary new approach for managing stress, and teach you the exact steps to take to get to reach your goals faster, without overworking?

Imagine if you had…

  • MORE TIME back on your calendar
  • MORE MONEY in your bank account
  • MORE FREEDOM in your business
  • MORE SUPPORT to bring your dreams to life
  • MORE COMMUNITY to never feel alone again
  • MORE GUIDANCE for how to expand your income and impact
  • MORE TIME to enjoy your life

You were put on this earth with power and purpose. You are full of unique gifts and you deserve to fulfill your mission and make an impact, without stress, overwork and overwhelm taking you out of the game. You deserve to THRIVE in every area of your life, and you don’t have time to mess around with outdated stress management strategies for managing stress. You deserve to have time to do what makes you happy and do it all: run a successful business and enjoy the life that’s in front of you. 

I believe you shouldn't have to choose between success or family, work or relationships, or having a successful business vs. having a life you love. 

It is possible to wake up every day feeling clear, focused, and in control of your life and business, and I want to show you how to start managing stress in a way that lets you have it all without having to do it all, so that you can experience what it’s like to have wild success without the stress and without having to worry about finding ways to relieve stress.

In fact, that’s what happened to Crystalyn. She’s a jewelry designer, philanthropist, and single mom of a busy little 4-year-old boy, and she found managing stress next to impossible when she was first launching her line.

When she came to me, she felt completely overwhelmed by the demands of being a single mom, launching her business, and making ends meet. Stress management was important to her, but she couldn’t seem to find effective ways to get her stress levels under control. After just a few short months of working together, she celebrated a 5-figure launch of her new chic jewelry line, gained a ton of media attention, and shifted her mindset to handle stress better and learn from it because she had new ways to relieve stress that actually worked. 

Even more importantly, now she schedules her time better to say "yes!" to things she wants to do because she no longer feels so overwhelmed and has better tools in her toolbelt when it comes to managing stress. She takes time every day to fully engage with her sweet son, without her mind running wild with all the things she "needs to do" playing in the background. On top of that, she feels more organized and in control of the balance between her home-life and work-life without the overwork and overwhelm, and managing stress has never felt easier.These stories are pretty impressive. But not because of anything I did! It’s because of the proven system I teach busy entrepreneurs like you how to use, that makes managing stress easy in your business. And because these women chose to take action on what I taught them, it’s given them a whole new perspective on life, without having to measure their worth based on how much they do, or waste time with ineffective stress management practices because stress no longer affects them or their business.

Maybe you’re sitting here listening wondering if this is the right show for you. Maybe you feel like you’re in a good place, you’re not that stressed, and things are going ok. Maybe you’re just looking to get more out of life, or find some quick tips for managing stress effectively. 

Casey did too. 

She had an incredible job as a journalist. She was recognized in her industry. She knew that she was fortunate in her job. But, she was playing it safe. She was scared of  giving up good for the possibility of GREAT. The thought of taking the leap to pursue a career in acting felt overwhelming, and the stress management strategies she’d tried hadn’t worked. When Casey came to me, she wanted more. She wasn’t satisfied with where she was, and she was beginning to regret pushing off her real dreams for the sake of the success she already had in her career. Want to know where Casey is now?

She’s stepped out of her comfort zone with confidence and pursuing her dream of becoming an actress. She's on commercials, she’s now host of her own radio show. She’s no longer hustling for gigs, and hasn’t had to spend time finding ways to relieve stress because she’s gotten spots on popular TV shows, commercials, and in movies. Her personal life transformed, too. She went from feeling broken and lonely -- she even swore off dating at one point -- to meeting the man of her dreams and getting engaged and married in less than 1 year. 

How? Simple. She followed the system for managing stress I gave her.


Maybe you're wondering, “Can this system work for me too?” 

And if that’s what’s going through your head right now, I have a question for you: 

  • Do you want to feel clear, focused, and in control of your life -- not as though life is controlling you? 
  • Are you tired of outdated, ineffective strategies for managing stress, and want to find new ways to reduce stress effectively so it doesn’t affect your life, business, and relationships?
  • Do you want to learn how to be more profitable, more productive, and more effective in all of your roles?
  • Do you want to become the go-to in your industry, have more impact, and help more people? 
  • Do you feel stuck and like you don’t know how to get there, and wish someone could show you the secrets to better stress management so you can get and stay on track? 

If you answered YES to any of the above, then you’re in the right place, and you’ll LOVE what we cover in the episodes ahead. 

Before getting diagnosed with cancer at 25, I thought that stress and burnout was part of what it took to become successful. I thought stress management was just part of the game, and that some people were better at it than others. I didn’t think managing stress effectively was something I could ever learn how to do well, because I was always too busy working. 

I thought that in order to have the success I craved, it meant I had to sacrifice my family, my relationships, and all of the things I loved. 

Honestly, I didn’t care about anything but my goals. I thought that sacrificing everything is just what had to be done to get what I wanted, which is why finding ways to relieve stress wasn’t on my radar.

That cancer diagnosis was my wakeup call, and I became obsessed with figuring out how to create a BOTH/AND life instead of a life that was EITHER/OR. 

I didn’t want to have to choose between my success or my sanity. I wanted a life where I could have a profitable, purposeful business AND stay present with my family.

Maybe for you it’s not cancer. Maybe it is realizing that you can’t go to your kids soccer game. Or that you hate your job. Or you’re stressed to the max and it’s taking a toll, because you haven’t found effective strategies for managing stress until now. Or you might simply want MORE out of life.

I’m here today to let you know that it doesn’t have to get *THAT BAD* for you to start creating your BOTH/AND life right now. 

You shouldn’t have to wake up in a hospital room (or have another health, life, or relationship crisis) in order to start learning effective new ways to reduce stress so you can have the life AND the success you want, right now.

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re falling short when it comes to managing stress and you’re spinning your wheels, then the Systems Made Simple™ Podcast is for you. 

What if you knew EXACTLY what you needed to do to grow your business, expand your influence, income, and impact, and had a simple approach that made managing stress easy (and actually worked?) 

Even better, what if you had a simple system to follow to level up your business and have a greater impact, and that you didn’t need to constantly search for ways to relieve stress because stress management was a thing of the past?

I had to teach myself the hard way, but for you, I’m making it SO EASY!!

That’s why as a business coach and stress expert who has built an entire company centered around helping busy entrepreneurs like you become the Visionary Leader your business needs to succeed. It’s my personal mission to show you that you’re worthy of inner peace, and give you the tools you need for managing stress so you can experience true success.

In a world where busy is a badge of honor and it’s a competition to see who feels more exhausted at the end of the day, managing stress has become a buzz phrase, but unfortunately, the stress management practices that exist are highly ineffective which is why this new system for managing stress is needed now more than ever. 

There are thousands of books on stress management, yet still, people are searching for answers. That’s because those “solutions” aren’t really solutions at all, they’re simply a bandaid for the gaping wound. They are empty promises of “time freedom” and “stress-free living” that do nothing more than get people’s hopes up, only to shatter them to bits the next time feelings of intense overwhelm surface and make managing stress feel virtually impossible. Unfortunately, these are nothing more than temporary, quick fixes that continue to perpetuate a deeper problem. 

It’s time we heal the wound itself. Managing stress isn’t as hard as it seems.

The #1 earth-shattering discovery I made during my years of research in answer to the question of why stress and overwhelm happen on the path to pursuing your dreams, is this: the truth is that stress and overwhelm come from the six inches between your ears, that is, from the beliefs you have about the way the world is, whether you’re aware of them or not. This is why most stress management practices are ineffective. 

The only way to dramatically reduce stress and eliminate anxiety  is to become aware of, question, and shift the beliefs we have about ourselves and the world around us. That’s when managing stress becomes easy, because it’s a different approach to what most people out there are teaching you how to do.

I quit buying into the belief that to be successful I meant I had to DO it all, and that’s what I’m here to help you do too so you can discover new ways to relieve stress so it no longer affects you.

It’s time to get to the heart of the issue and learn how to shift the mindsets that cause overwhelm and make managing stress feel so difficult in the first place.

I’m going to give you practical, simple steps for managing stress and counter-intuitive ways to relieve stress that you can instantly implement for effective stress management and long-lasting, permanent results.

It’s not just about knowing what to do, and it’s not just about knowing how to do it. Mindset without strategy is no good, and neither is strategy without mindset. You need both. And I’m here to help you succeed. 

The only question left to ask is: are you ready? 

If you want to feel clear, focused, and in control of your life (and if you want managing stress to feel easy and effortless!) then don’t worry, I’ve got your back. I can’t wait to go on this journey together. I’ll see YOU in the next episode on the Systems Made Simple™ podcast.